The Fathers Day Dilemma

What to do for Fathers Day...

Last weekend I was at a school carnival with my dear wife and kids. From across the playground, one of the kids called out "Daddy!". You probably guessed it, half of the adults turned their heads. All those well conditioned fathers. Myself included. Being a father is more than having kids, it's a state of mind.

When I dropped the kids off at school today, one of the kids was telling one of the school workers "On Fathers Day, my Dad gets to do anything he wants". I thought "If only...". Okay, I'm sure the "within reason" is assumed. A nice dreamy sentiment nonetheless.

You see, to me Fathers Day is about acknowledging and honoring the Fathers in our lives. Our own fathers first, and then other important fathers. Done with a healthy dose of appreciation. It isn't what you get a father, it's what you give him. I'll spare you my commercialism of special days rant. Just to say, the best things in life aren't things...

Sometimes it's as simple as a letter, phone call, or visit. Taking the time to make dad important. Or just spending time together. Sitting and chatting over good bottle(s) of beer or wine with my dad, what could be better? Or to do something he enjoys with him. Yes, it could be giving him the day to do as he pleases (within reason - loosely translated as keeping the kids and chores out of his way). Quality futzing time is always a welcome luxury. You get the idea. The cards or gifts are just the traipsings that add to the spirit.

Last year my dear wife and kids gave me a home-made booklet of coupons. It had coupons for breakfast in bed, special dinners, hugs, kisses. Stuff like that. While there probably wasn't much I wouldn't have gotten anyway, it was a very nice gesture. It showed thought and spirit. Then I was well fed and had plenty of futzing time that day. I got some handmade cards from the kids. Nothing extravagant.

I know that I am loved and appreciated. What could be better...?